Im here to tell you often time we lose ourselves…we cry all day and stay up all night dealing with past hurt, current issues, and future wonders. Today is the day to stop it. Go look in the mirror and regain yourself. Once you regain inner peace and strength you can take back control of your life. Once you have taken back over your life you can begin to heal the hurt of your past. The present on happens NOW so don’t let THEN make you hate NOW. You can not erase your past but you write a wonderful present and build towards a bright future.

Lets get to work……and mend the things that we have dealt with for a bigger, brighter future!

As I sit here thinking about how wonderful you were and how much of an impact you have I am so THANKFUL! How I wish I would have had the opportunity to be in your presence at least once. I have listened to your “I Have a Dream” speech so many times. And each time I am even more motivated by it than before.I thank you soo much for having a DREAM && turning it into a REALITY. For working hard && showing us that there is more to the world than ignorance && violence. I try to walk in your footsteps && step OUTSIDE the boundaries that have been placed to stop me from reaching my full potential. Happy Martin Luther King Jr Day everyone!

Finally 2011 is here!

I must say I am excited…I have been preparing for some major projects that I’m going to accomplish this year.

One major goal is that I will blog DAILY! Yesssss…..I said it daily! Ofcourse there may be times when I’m unable to blog but I won’t go past five days. And I will do –MAKE UP BLOGS! I really appreciate all my readers & supporters and I’m sooo going to bring you all some AMAZING things this year!

Make sure you go to the “ask me” page and leave suggestions, questions,etc..

So here is to the new year *toast*

Well….since it’s Decemeber that means it’s the end of the year && I want you to do something RIGHT NOW!

Take out a sheet of paper.(okay now next thing) make four columns(next label them as these:) positive, negative, I knew better, I learned better.

We’re going to evaluate the entire year of 2010 to help us improve in 2011.

FIRST SECTION-(positive) right down major positive experiences that you encountered that you would say helped shape your year. These events are things that you couldn’t control. Some people call them life events.

Second section-(NEGATIVE) write down all the major negative experiences that helped shape your year.These events are things that you couldn’t control. Some people call them life events.

THIRD SECTION-(I knew better) in this section list things that happened that you knew you shouldn’t have done. Remember to be completely honest. Nobody will see this paper unless you want them to anyway!

Fourth  section -(I LEARNED BETTER) I want you to list hands on lessons that you learned through experience this year. These can be positive or negative. Tell what you learned fully.

Make sure in EACH section you are detailed. And write from the heart…okay I will be waiting until you’re done

– WELCOME BACK! Now that you have completed the list read it back out loud to yourself. I’ve learned when you write things down and then read them out loud they sink in better. After you have done that, write a summary named “Dear 2011″. Take what you learned, what you won’t do, the positive and negative experiences and tie them all together into a summary of who you are going into 2011 and why. You have all the answers on that paper in those lists if you were honest.

Now at the end of your summary make a -2011 TO DO LIST  -(I’ve heard that “new Years Resolutions” were so last yr. lol)

Let me know how it goes…I will be posting mine tomorrow to help you see the concept!

MUCH LOVE

CHANEL*NACOLE

Sitting down staring out the window at the world, in my vision walks a little girl. Almost the spitting image of me, I hear a voice yelling saying “come back here Fefe”. The little girl stops in place looks back and then looks up to the sky, then starts singing a song that brought tears to my eyes…in my heart I can’t run from singing…the songs my heart try to release to this world that is so tainted. Started singing when I was 5, in the church hitting notes that were so low and some so high. The little girl disappeared and I looked to the left, saw a teenage girl doing the “two-step”.

The teenage girl danced with such grace. The way she moved so effortlessly had me amazed. Looked in her face and again she looked just like me, had the most serious look on her face like she was fighting in the ring. She just danced and danced even when her friends had left…I could tell that dancing was what her heart felt. I heard a voice say “Fefe come here” & after the girl had finished dancing she went on in.

I looked into a window across from me and saw a flash, almost scared me at first until I saw this brown skinned young lady posing..couldn’t see her face at first, so I wondered who she was.Then I looked a little closer as she turned around and she was the spitting image of me…I heard a voice saying, “you better get it Fe”.such elegant poses the woman did, its like the camera was her best friend. Looked a little more saw her on the stage, looks to me like she was in some kind of play.

But then my vision quickly jumped to the left, where I once again saw me doing what I do best. Handing business in a suit…ooh yeah can’t forget those high heel shoes.

These are what my heart longs for me to do…singing, dancing, modeling, acting, and handling my business is what I do the best. Over the years my talents have increased and I know that writing them down will help me pave them in stone. Sometimes my road gets dark and my burdens get heavy but no matter how hard I try to run these things are in my heart and these are what I love to do. So, just thought I would share it with you  

I know I’m not the only person that acts like this. & it’s very tough to shake off. It’s very hard to trust when you’ve been let down & hurt a lot in your life. It’s hard to smile when you’re afraid the pain will soon follow. It’s hard to look back at the past & have peace. But I must find it in myself to be free.

It’s easy to put on that “smile” or go out to have a good time. Very easy to push myself so I don’t have to deal with things.Easy to give advice to my friends but I can’t give myself the same. Very easy to find the flaws I possess instead of giving myself slight praise. It’s very easy to talk to God about elevation but very difficult to take the first step.

If you’re perfect you won’t understand this note. If you’ve never had to deal with anything you might take life as a joke. But if you think your back is against the wall & nobody understands you just look inside yourself & face the things head on. I’m preaching to the choir right now(so I’m talking to me & you).

Push yourself to the limit. Make yourself happy. Follow God’s direction. Don’t worry about what others think of you. Know you’re beautiful. And love, live, life.

As I take my first step into complete bliss & happiness I hope you do too. Release those chains that are hindering you & become the best YOU that you can be.

Okay, so now on to “Letters to a Young Sister”. Where do I begin? I learned helpful information about credit, financial tips, how to love myself, some of the most inspiring quotes ever, and how to be the best woman I can be!

The book is set up in the form of  letters to a female he calls his young sister. In every chapter he gives insight and advice on a question or problem she is having and then there are two emails answered by him and some of the most powerful women in society now(and a few are answered by men). I screamed when I read the email answered by Michelle Obama..i SO LOVE HER. She is most definitely a powerful woman!

If you are lost on this road to life, feeling down and that nobody understands you, or just wanting to read something to enhance your self-esteem and character this is the book for you! Go rent it, buy it, borrow it, or just go sit in a bookstore and read it TODAY!

But be prepared to want to change your life for the better! This is not just a book that you read and then say “ahh that was nice” and go on about your life. You will start looking at life through a new more positive lens. You will start to become the best WOMAN that you can.

Ready?Set…READ!

I did a post about this recently but I love this topic so I’m going to take another route to this when I answer it. I think I have a food good reasons WHY people think it’s cool…

#1-society is acceptable of it..

Ever heard of the “don’t ask don’t tell” policy in the world? You know the you didn’t ask me so I didn’t tell you line..Or the “eyes shut lips sealed policy”?  A lot of people aren’t empathetic these days, which means that if it’s not happening to them they really don’t care. Also, cheating is displayed soo much on television and in songs as “okay” so why would someone think otherwise? If you see your favorite actor or singer or even pastor get caught up what would you think? Well some people would think “shoot if they got numerous partners why can’t I? Just don’t get caught”. And that’s where it’s wrong!

#2-the person really isn’t happy with themselves..

Classic quote “if you don’t love yourself you will never be able to love someone else truly”.

If you are holding on to hurt, anger, depression, and so much more because of a past relationship then usually you’re going to carry it over to your next relationship. If you don’t value yourself of course you won’t value the person you’re with enough not to cheat. Self love is real love and then everything else blossoms from that.

#3-they don’t know any better..

If a person was never taught not to cheat on the person they are in a relationship with or that when you’re in a relationship with one person you are only supposed to be with that person then how can you expect them to be faithful? But like I always say…if you KNOW better you will DO better..

These are the top three reasons I think people think it’s cool and why I think it happens..I hope these helped you and THANKS for your question J

Do you know how important you are? Do you know there is no one like you in this world. Sure people may say “I saw someone who looked just like you” or “you act just like so and so” but one thing you will never here is “I saw you somewhere you wasn’t”. Each individual in this world is unique. We all have something that sets us apart from everyone else. Just think about it for a second, think about all your friends…..each of you is better at something than the others.

I believe that God blessed all of us with a unique gift. A gift is a talent that you are naturally good at. When you find out what your gift is and expand your knowledge about it you can make it take you great places in life. Whether it lands you your dream job or you start on own company don’t let your talents go to waste!

Often times I hear my friends (and I’m guilty of this too), “man I wish I had this” or “I wish I knew how to do that”. Who says you can’t have all the things you want in life and so much more? I have come to realize that our words have A LOT of power. And want know what else, our thoughts have even more power than words! So instead of saying “I wish I knew how to do that” try saying “I’m going to learn how to do that!” Matter of fact you can learn almost everything on youtube.com now adays! (yeah you laugh but you know I’m right lol)

So for the next 28 days I want you to be very conscious of what you say? And remember think POSITIVE!
Let me know how it goes..